Getting a man to commit to you and only you isn’t easy. But here’s the thing, deep down all men want to be in a committed relationship. You just need to use these 7 simple steps to make it a reality!
Nothing’s more amazing than a deep committed relationship. But getting a man to commit can be one of life’s biggest challenges.
Every woman who’s ever dated knows what it’s like. You start dating an amazing guy. Things are going great. You see each other all the time. The connection and spark are definitely there.
Then come those feared words… “I’m not ready for a relationship…” or “I’m just not looking for a commitment right now…”
It all comes to a screeching, grinding halt.
No matter what you try, you can’t get him to commit. In fact, the more you try, the more distant he becomes.
How could this happen? Why is he holding back and refusing to commit?
These are the questions every woman has asked herself at some point. The answer is there are some very specific biological reasons why guys struggle to commit.
We’re talking things deep down in the subconscious of practically all men.
Sounds daunting, huh?
But no need to fret about it, because here’s the good news…
There are seven proven ways you can break down his commitment-phobia and make him devote himself entirely to you. Read on and I’ll tell you about them now.
Why Guys Won’t Commit
Here’s a little-known fact: all men deep down want to be in a deep, loving and committed relationship. Now, that probably comes as a bit of a shock. But it’s true.
Here’s the difference between men and women though (well, one of about a million!).
For us ladies, it’s instinctive to easily and quickly build a deep, committed bond. Once we spend meaningful time with our man, our brain releases hormones that ignite a committed bond.
But for guys, it’s totally different story.
You see, men have deep, ingrained biological and psychological reasons that date back centuries that hold them back from commitment. Basically, it’s in their DNA.
It can be things like, subconsciously avoiding getting hurt. Or coming across as ‘soft’ or ‘needy’.
Think about it… these are traits that would make them the weakest in the tribe back the caveman days.
And, despite evolution, it’s still part of the makeup of the male brain today and lead to him resisting commitment.
So, as ladies, we’re really up against thousands of years of biological hardwiring. Not just a bunch of random feelings guys have.
But don’t be put off, there are ways to tap into his psychology to get him to commit. Here, let me explain.
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7 Proven Ways to Make a Man Commit (Even If He’s Already Said No)
We’ve all dealt with them. The most commitment phobic guys. The kind that disappear the moment things get even in semi-serious.
After months of dating all it can take is little things like leaving same clothes at his place or asking for a spare key to trigger a complete commitment freakout.
But here’s something you need to understand: commitment is a decision that any man can make. Like I mentioned, guys only avoid making the decision because they’re preprogrammed to.
The fact that they’re hardwired like this is actually a positive. Because it means they’re psychologically predictable.
So, all you need is a few clever strategies to tap into his psychological makeup to make him – and any guy – commit lovingly, devotedly and ONLY to you – even if he’s said no in the past!
#1 Be Decisive and Strong
Sure, biologically guys are programmed to be in control. But this doesn’t mean you should become his lap dog. Or that you rely on him to make every single decision.
If he has to decide everything for you from where to eat to what to do next Saturday night, he’ll become super bored, or worse, annoyed very quickly.
He chose to be with you because of who you are. Keep being that strong, independent woman and watch as it draws him in deeper!
#2. Keep Living YOUR Life
Early on, it can be hard to resist spending every waking moment with your lover. But resist you must!
Because even though he says he wants to be around you non-stop and do every little thing together, your man will miss and crave you more when you’re not around. Two powerful ingredients when it comes to commitment.
You had your own exciting, adventurous life before he came along. Don’t stop living it just because now he’s in your life.
Go grab a cocktail with the girls, take yoga three times a week or getaway over the weekend – he’ll be begging to be with you when you get back.
It may come as a surprise, but men often get the feeling that their woman is withholding or selfish with sex.
This isn’t a major deal. So, don’t fret. It’s usually just that you have different sex drives – something that’s totally common.
Despite all the machoness, guys need a little TLC to get them to commit deeply too you. So, be open to exploring his desires and sexual needs. Give him the physical attention he craves. And watch how his heart becomes yours.
We all have dreams. But guys in particular are big dreamers. Whether your man is trying to start a business, going back to college, or becoming an EDM DJ, show some support for his dreams.
Even if they seem totally unrealistic, shattering his dreams by putting them down is a sure-fire way he’ll choose them over you.
Having you in his corner supporting him every step of the way is one of the deepest ways the two of you will connect. It’s a building block of real long-term commitment. It shows you’ll be by his side along the journey – a big psychological boost.
As you settle into life as a couple, it’s easy to forget the little things like saying “thank you”. But you’d be surprised how much this little show of appreciation does for commitment.
Take a moment to say a small thank you, whether it’s for cleaning up, picking up something from the store, or pulling your chair out for you.
It might not be obvious, but this small gesture has big impact on your lover. And you’ll quickly see he’ll start reciprocating, strengthening the commitment between you.
The temptation is nearly always there — especially early on — to act like a private investigator, checking in on his whereabouts, asking who he’s texting and calling. But acting like this just shows a complete lack of trust.
If your man feels like he’s having his every move watched and questioned like he’s under surveillance, you’ll never build a strong bond. To truly be in a happy, committed relationship, it’s vital you show your man you trust him.
Of course, if he does something that betrays your trust, call him out. Or ditch him, if you have to. But until then, trust in him. Because the only way a relationship can last is if it’s built on mutual love and trust.
Laughter is one of the most potent love elixirs. Just joking and laughing with your man can bring you so much closer together. And it’ll make him long to be around you because of the endorphins you release in his brain.
So, whenever you’re together, put all the serious stuff to one side. Laugh and joke around. Fool around, wrestle, tease him and ruffle his hair. Show him your playful side and he’ll show you his.
Our lives are stressful enough. Being fun to be around breaks down his stress, shows his vulnerability and brings down his emotional barriers. It reveals his true side and brings you closer together as a lover and a friend.
Make Him Commit To You Today…
Healthy relationships are all about commitment. And while guys often do their best to avoid it, deep down you now know they long for commitment just as much as you.
So, now you know how the male mind works, start putting these seven simple strategies into action with your lover.
It might take a little work, but the levels of commitment it brings will build the amazing, devoted relationship every woman dreams about.
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